



These drawings, humble as they are (and they are), took me a while to get down in my sketchbook. I actually started it on April Fool's Day, then other obligations got in the way and, well, this sort of thing just takes me a while.
Anyway, you can read the story better by clicking on the images. Do your best to ignore the pencil marks I couldn't erase, and to admire the ones I intend to be there.
This was my attempt at exorcising an old, dumb demon.
We all have these stories we carry around about our parents -- slights, mistakes, things they did wrong or should have done but didn't. They can be hard to let go. What you find when your own kids get old enough to start talking about the past is that the things that make an impression a child can be staggering to the parent. My kids tell me about things I said and did and I think, "Geez, what an ogre I was," while at the same time having NO RECOLLECTION OF SAYING OR DOING THAT THING.
So now comes this story of my father -- a story I have told people through the years as a way of explaining my disdain for practical jokes, which I think tend to be meanspirited at their core. And, truth be told, I felt I could get vengeance for the-kid-that-was-me if I told the story to other people.
It is true that many decades ago, Dad played a really ill-considered practical joke on me. It is also true that I wore my survivor's story as if it were some badge of honor.
Not.
What's honorable is forgiving your parents as you would wish to be forgiven. Maybe that's not even honorable. Maybe it's just a different kind of survival tactic.
In any case, it is easier to forgive people after they've died. In this case, it has taken, oh, 10 years for me to sort of look at myself in the victim role here, and say, "Uh, Karen ... you might wanna retire that story."
So here it is, my last telling of the story. Well, at least my last telling in this context. Maybe it will become a new kind of story. I tell it in the spirit of exorcising the demon one last time and of saying, "Dad, that was a really dumb thing you did. But no dumber than anything I've done or will do. So I'm sorry I've trafficked in this story, and I know you would be sorry for this if you could be."
(At least I think so.)
By the way, this doesn't change my view on practical jokes. Check your motives in the mirror before you step out with that far-out story you're about to pull on someone, that's what I say.